There is such a saying: "Mom, do you remember my white breeches? ... Well, about this later ...". It seems from an anecdote. But the essence of the #defloration procedure is accurate: on the sheet (as a rule) there is a speck of blood. In memory of the transformation of a girl into a #woman. It seems like a frog in a princess, if in a fairy tale.

However, everyone has it in their own way. Someone is painful, someone is not very, someone from the first time, the other - no, someone with blood, and it happens that without.
The biggest change is the transformation of a virgin into a woman, but if she became a prostitute, then this is too much transformation, even perversion.

But there are things that everyone needs to know in order to be ready for the situation and not get lost in it, because men often know even less. And the girl will have to prepare for herself and for that guy.

The theory of social learning provides an alternative explanation for the double sexual standard. From the point of view of this theory, women were often punished (censured or isolated by their peers) for sexually free behavior. Men, as a rule, are rewarded for such behavior, becoming objects of praise from peers.

To assess the impact of the double standard on the sexual behavior of adolescents, let's look at some of its possible consequences. For boys in the center of sexual behavior may be "sexual conquest" ladies. Nonaggressive and sexually inexperienced teenagers are often hung sharply negative labels like "snotty". On the other hand, peers often provide social reinforcement of stereotypically "masculine" qualities and deeds. For example, aggressive and independent behavior is glorified. For some young people, telling comrades about their intimate adventures is more important than the sexual act itself. As one recalls:

"My reputation was under threat. I was so cute, with a sense of humor, athletic, sociable - but still a virgin. Everyone thought that I was an expert on amorous affairs. I played this role and always said: "Yes, we did it, and it was cool, guys!" "

For women are very different thoughts and expectations. The following quotation demonstrates the view of one woman on both sides of the double standard:

"It has always seemed very strange to me that society demands virginity from girls, and for boys to lose it is normal. I grew up in a big family, in which my eldest child was my brother. I remember the conversation about what kind of playboy my brother was (he was about 18). My parents were not annoyed, rather they experienced a kind of pride. But when my sister and I were ripe for sex, our parents became suspicious. I always remember what I felt. And if I ever become a mother, I will not allow such inadequacy and such an emphasis on female #virginity. "